An Old Blue Neon

Hardship, when tied to purpose, tends to prove universal truths—pain, discomfort, and uncertainty build the grit, character, and strength we need. It feels brutal in the moment, but later, we often look back with gratitude—even fondness.

Leaving the military felt like starting over. In the bomb squad, I felt known, respected, proven. Outside? I was just another mid-level manager driving a beat-up Dodge Neon (it was baby blue, borrowed from my dad) to work—one that even rolled up a tree in the parking lot one time. Fitting.

I felt like I had no name, no reputation, no identity. At home, I had no support. It was humbling and isolating. But I relied on faith, on music, and on small anchor points that kept me moving forward. And I stayed focused on the long game.

I look back now and see the truth: struggle refines us. These moments shape who we become.

So if you’re in it right now, I say just keep going. You’ll make it. And one day, you’ll look back and realize—these were some of your finest moments. Hard times can be a gift. They build the grit you don’t know you’ll need yet. Find your anchor points, no matter how small. And when you make it through, don’t forget what it felt like. Someone else is out there, struggling quietly, just like you once were.

Reach out. Listen. Encourage. Sometimes, all someone needs is a bro hug and a reminder to stay the course.

PS. Just for fun…

Dodge Neon Specs: HP: 150. 0-60 in 8 seconds. Top Speed 115ish (doubt it). Manual 5 Speed. Quarter Mile: 16 Seconds at 87 mph. My Current Shelby Build: HP: 1000. 0-60 in 3 seconds. Top Speed 215ish. Manual 5 Speed. Quarter Mile: 10 Seconds at Mach OMG. Both smell funny at times. Both blue. Although, I dumped the baby blue.